The M Sanctuary - Margaretha Tosi

An 8-week programme for couples · June 30, 2026

The M.
Sanctuary

A complete lineage purification programme for women and couples preparing for pregnancy or birth. Eight modules. Both partners. Everything you are carrying that was never yours — released before your child arrives.

“Most birth courses focus on the hospital bag. They ignore the heaviest thing in the room: what your family handed you before you could choose.”

Next cohort opens June 30, 2026 · Early Bird closes June 9th

Sanctuary

The real preparation

You’ve prepared for birth.
But have you prepared for this?

You’ve read the books. You’ve hired the midwife. You’re planning the HypnoBirthing course. You are not someone who is doing this unprepared.

And yet — when you imagine the birth room — something tightens. A fear you can’t quite name. An anxiety that therapy hasn’t fully reached. A quiet sense that something needs to shift before this child arrives, and you don’t know exactly what.

That feeling is accurate. It is pointing at the layer that most birth preparation never reaches. The inherited layer. The ancestral layer. The patterns that live in the body rather than the mind — and that will activate, automatically, in the most intense moments of your birth.

This programme addresses that layer. For both of you. Together.

You’ve done therapy but something remains

You understand your patterns intellectually. But there is a layer beneath thought — in the body, in the nervous system — that talk alone hasn’t reached.

You’re afraid you’ll become your mother

Not because she was a monster. Because she was human. And you can see her patterns in yourself — despite years of working not to repeat them.

Your partner doesn’t know what to do

He’s willing. He loves you. And he has no template for what genuine presence in the birth room actually requires — because nobody ever taught him.

You’re an expat building a family abroad

No grandmother in the waiting room. No mother to call from the hospital. You are building your village from scratch — and you feel that gap most acutely right now.

The fear doesn’t belong to you

Most of what women fear about birth did not originate with them. It travelled — through the mother line, the father line, across generations — and arrived wearing your name.

You want to do this consciously

Not because something is catastrophically wrong. Because you feel the weight of this threshold — and you want to arrive at it clear, grounded, and genuinely ready.

Why both partners

This is the only birth programme
built for both of you

Every other programme like this is written for the woman alone. The partner is handed a worksheet and told to “be supportive.”

I know what that produces. Thirteen years ago I laboured with Italian midwives in a bathroom while my partner — a good man, a loving man — retreated to the kitchen. Not because he didn’t care. Because nobody had ever asked him to prepare. Because every birth course, every book, every conversation had been directed at me.

I felt completely alone in one of the most significant moments of my life.

That is why The M. Sanctuary treats both partners as full participants. His lineage work. Her lineage work. Both somatic practices. Both declarations. One shared foundation.

“Your child will inherit from both lines. Which means both of you need to do this work.”

For her

Map your mother line and father line. Locate inherited patterns in the body. Release birth fear at its actual source — not its surface. Arrive at the birth room carrying only yourself.

For him

Examine your own lineage — the model of fatherhood you were handed, the definition of strength that has no room for presence. Build the capacity to stay fully in the room when she needs you most.

For both of you

Build a shared language around your patterns. Complete the Together exercises that create genuine co-regulation. Arrive at birth as a team — not two individuals hoping for the best.

years at the intersection of birth & lineage

Who i am

Margaretha Tosi —
Dutch, in Milan,
for over two decades

I started as a doula. I stood in birth rooms for years, holding women through the most extraordinary threshold of their lives. And what I kept seeing — over and over, in room after room — was that the women who struggled most were not struggling because of what was happening in the room.

They were struggling because of what they had carried into it.

I spent the next two decades studying what that meant. Family Systems work. Somatic trauma release. The epigenetics of inherited experience. And twenty-five years of direct work with couples at this threshold — which taught me more than any methodology ever could.

“The work that matters most happens before you pack the hospital bag.”

I also know what it means to build a family far from home. As a Dutch woman married to an Italian, raising a family in Milan for over twenty years — I understand the particular courage and particular loneliness of expat pregnancy. That experience is woven through everything I teach.

The eight modules

Eight weeks.
Two lineages.
One clean slate.

Each module contains a written lesson, her exercises, his exercises, a Together exercise, shared reflection prompts, and a full guided audio practice — recorded in Margaretha’s voice.

MODULE 01

The Arrival

Understanding where you are and what brought you both here. Your first shared lineage map.

MODULE 02

The Mother Line

What the women before each of you carried — and handed forward. Both mother lines traced.

MODULE 03

The Father Line

The wounds from the other side. Safety, authority, and the model of fatherhood he was handed.

MODULE 04

The Body’s Memory

Where the inherited patterns actually live — and how to begin releasing them somatically.

MODULE 05

The Birth Fear Audit

Naming exactly what you are afraid of — and discovering whose fear it actually is.

MODULE 06

The Mother Wound

Healing your relationship with your own mother before you become one. The most tender module.

MODULE 07

Sovereign Birth Preparation

Arriving at the threshold carrying only yourself. Your shared birth vision, built together.

MODULE 08

The Clean Slate

The declaration. The ritual of completion. The Lineage Letter to your child. The chain ends here.

8 Written Lessons

Deep, substantial lessons weaving Family Systems, somatic work, and 25 years of direct experience.

8 Audio Practices

Guided somatic and meditation practices recorded in Margaretha's voice. To be returned to again and again.

Her & His Exercises

Parallel exercises for each partner — individual lineage work that builds toward a shared foundation.

The Lineage Workbook

A complete PDF workbook for mapping both family systems across three generations.

Together Exercises

One shared exercise per module — where both partners bring their individual work into the same space.

Italian Birth System Guide

Navigating Italian hospitals as an expat — your rights, key vocabulary, and birth preferences in Italian.

What clients say

Transformation in their words

“I found Margaretha at a point in my pregnancy where I was overwhelmed by hormones, insecurities, and a paralyzing fear of giving birth. Not only did she comfort me in a way no one had managed throughout the pregnancy — she helped me understand that what I was feeling had roots far older than this pregnancy. I walked in thinking I had a challenging pregnancy. I walked out feeling grateful for every single emotion. She has been such a blessing.”

Guia Cleps

Milan, Italy

“Margaretha was essential for me to achieve my VBAC. She worked with me on the fears and trauma from my previous birth — deeply, not just on the surface. My partner and I did this together and it changed everything.”

Ayca

Online client

“As wild as it sounds, I mourned the birth experience when it was over — because it was so moving and beautiful. That wouldn’t have been possible without Margaretha helping me clear what I was carrying into the room.”

Kala & Giovanni

Online client

Margaretha has been a light in the dark. She helped me and my husband overcoming generational patterns we weren’t even aware of. It has strengthened us in preparation for our homebirth and as a couple.

Dani

Online client

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Tier 1 · Self-Study

The Self-Study Sanctuary

The complete programme at your own pace, in your own time.

~~€497~~

€397
Early Bird · Save €100 with CODE: EARLYBIRD till June 9th

Full access to all 8 modules

Her exercises + his exercises per module

All Together exercises

8 guided audio practices

Lineage Workbook PDF

Italian Birth System Guide

Clean Slate Declaration template

Lifetime access + future updates

Partner included as standard