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What your parents carried
doesn’t have to reach your child.

You’ve done the therapy. You understand your patterns. But something deeper — inherited, wordless, cellular — is still there. That’s exactly where this work begins.

This is for you if you are:

Pregnant or planning a pregnancy · Aware of family patterns you don’t want to repeat · A couple ready to do this work together · An expat building a family far from home

“She helped me walk into the birth room carrying only myself — not my mother, not her mother.”

— Silvia, Milan

RECOGNISE YOURSELF?

You are in the right place if any of these feel familiar

You're planning a pregnancy

You want to become a parent consciously — clearing what was handed to you before
it reaches the next generation.

You and your partner carry different wounds

You've both done individual work, but when you come together around parenting or pregnancy, old patterns surface. You want to do this as a team.

You're an expat, building your family abroad

No family village nearby. No mother to call at 2am. You want to arrive at birth and parenthood with your own inner foundation firmly in place.

You're pregnant and something feels unresolved

Therapy has helped, but there's a layer — about your own birth, your parents' relationship, your body — that talk alone hasn't reached.

You're already a parent seeing old patterns emerge

You promised yourself you'd be different. But some reactions, some silences, some moments — you recognise them from your own childhood.

You want birth to be a transformation, not just an event

You sense that how a child enters the world matters — and you want to arrive at that threshold clear, sovereign, and fully yourself.

years
studying
generational
trauma

ABOUT MARGARITHA

A Dutch woman
in Milan — who knows
what it means to rebuild.

I’ve spent decades at the intersection of birth, the body, and the stories we inherit. I started as a doula. Then HypnoBirthing. Then I went deeper — into the somatic, the ancestral, the patterns that therapy alone can’t always reach.

I’m also a Dutch woman married to an Italian, raising a family in a country that isn’t mine. I know exactly what it’s like to build a family far from your people — and why that makes this work even more essential.

“Birth is not a medical event. It’s a threshold. And what you carry across it, your child inherits.”

My work isn’t about symptom management. It’s about tracing the pattern back to its source and choosing — consciously, in your body — to let it end with you.

NEW OFFERING

Preparing for pregnancy?
Begin before conception.

Most birth preparation starts at 20 weeks. The most powerful work starts before a pregnancy test is even taken — when you and your partner can move freely, without urgency, through everything your families of origin have handed you.

Identify and release the specific patterns both partners carry into parenthood

Understand how your own birth and childhood shaped your body's relationship to safety

Build a shared emotional foundation as a couple — before the pressure of pregnancy

Arrive at conception, pregnancy, and birth from a place of genuine readiness

New Programme

The Clear
Slate
Couple

PRE-CONCEPTION WORK

For couples ready to begin
before the beginning.

Ways to work together

Choose the depth
that calls you

Tier 3 · Entry Point

The Catalyst Session

A 90-minute focused intervention on the one specific pattern that is blocking your pregnancy confidence or birth preparation right now. We name it, locate it in the body, and begin to shift it.

Best for

Women or couples who need a clear starting point, or who are facing a specific fear or pattern and want to work on it now.